Article category: Home Care, Senior Care, Eldercare, In-Home Care, Caregivers.
Eldercare Tip — Love, Family, Relationships and Friendships with Your Aging Loved Ones.
Valentine’s Day is around the corner. Yet, when we researched what people regret the most in their lives, we learned that most lists of regrets featured the following:
- “not spending enough time with my loved ones,”
- “working too much at the expense of my family and friends,”
- “not having the courage to express my feelings.”
Most of us have regrets — big or small — but what causes us to regret?
The word “regret,” when used as a noun, is “a feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over something that has happened or been done — especially a loss or missed opportunity.” Merriam-Webster dictionary defines “regret” as: “sorrow by circumstances beyond one’s control or power to repair.”
Although the Merriam-Webster’s interpretation is more politically-correct because it makes us feel less responsible, we believe that this interpretation is disempowering. Is it not? It seems to take away our ability to make things right, to right the wrongs, to repair them.
Most of Us Have Regrets
If someone ever tells you that they have no regrets, they are probably not being completely open. Most of us, if not all of us, have regrets. However, it is true that some of us have very few regrets, and others live in constant regret. Furthermore, some of us have major regrets, whereas others have minor ones.
Where Do Regrets Come From?
Where do regrets come from? Is it possible that regrets are things that are of great importance to us, that have not been accomplished? If so, how can we minimize our future regrets — at least the major ones? We don’t have time to do it all, but, we might just have time to accomplish the most important things. What, then, are the things that matter most in life — in your life?
The Reality is that We Get to Decide What Really Matters
The reality is that we, whether we are cognizant of it or not, remain in control of our lives and how we live them. We get to decide what is and what is not important to us. We, therefore, get to decide where to focus our energies. We get to decide what to focus on, and what to disregard. Deciding what to disregard (what is minor) is perhaps more important than deciding what to focus on (what is major). It is a process of elimination. When we decide what is not important to us, we end up with things that really matter.
“Learn how to separate the majors and the minors.
A lot of people don’t do well simply because they major in minor things.”
— Jim Rohn
Let us decide and re-focus on things that matter most.
“Things that matter most
should never be at the mercy of things that matter least.”
— Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
What Happens When We Decide?
When we consciously separate the minor things from the major ones, when we decide what really matters, we may just find that what really matters are:
When we decide what matters to us we are able to re-prioritize our life, and minimize major regrets.
Let us Choose Love, Family, Relationships and Friendships
Let us choose love and nurture the relationships with our loved ones. Let us push back all the minor things that are being pushed upon us, and decide to spend some real quality time with our loved ones — especially our aging loved ones. After all, our time with them is limited. Let us plan a Valentine’s Day lunch, early dinner (or just a tea-time) with our elderly Moms and Dads. Do not forget to bring the grandchildren along — grandparents probably adore them, and their eyes and hearts light up when they see them.
We wish you a wonderful Valentine’s Day, and life with only minor regrets…
Share with us what matters most in your life? Email us today.
With ❤︎ for the Elderly…
Article topic: Home Care, Senior Care, Eldercare, In-Home Care, Caregivers.